Humans are naturally striving for success. But what if we try so hard to be successful, that it negatively affects our happiness?
Many of us try so hard to be the person people want them to be, without listening to their inner voice. So we seem to forget who we truly are, in order to perform in this patriarchal society of ours.
I recently read a book and stumbled upon an amazing exercise, which managed to open my eyes. It initiated some really profound realizations, which encouraged me to reconsider my priorities.
Therefore I absolutely wanted to address this topic in a blog post.
“The Soul sucks versus the Soul fuels Exercise”
This exercise is from an amazing book called “Soulbbatical: A Corporate Rebel’s Guide to Finding Your Best Life“
Former Harley-Davidson executive Shelley Paxton, the author of this book, did just that. She walked away at the peak of her twenty-six-year marketing career and embarked on a profoundly personal journey to reconnect with her true purpose and deepest desires.
Shelley called it her “Soulbbatical,” and it not only changed her life, it became her calling.
Her words strongly resonated with me because she tells her story in such a tender, honest and funny way.
This is truly a GAME-CHANGER in self-help literature!
The teachings and wisdom shared on her journey are captivating and actionable for all of us.
Hence, for anyone searching to come home to your soul, I highly recommend this book. I’m sure, it will beautifully change your life. 🙂
(Click on the image of the book to see/buy it online)
Instructions for the exercise
The only thing you have to do is:
Grab a sheet of paper.
Write “my life” as a title.
Draw a line down the middle of the page.
Use the two columns as follows:
What drains your energy?
What exhausts you?
What bores you?
What are the things you could do all day long and feel like no time has passed?
What brings you incredible joy?
What literally fuels your soul?
Spend 5 minutes on each column with the aid of the questions above, while writing down everything that comes to mind.
Don’t overthink, don’t judge yourself!
Then, take a step back and ask yourself the following questions:
Which column is longer?
What surprises you?
Is there anything that scares you?
What do you want more of/less of?
Certainly, this exercise was incredibly powerful for me.
I comprehended that working for somebody does not serve me.
Also, I realized that I want the possibility to rest for a moment whenever I need it because the lack of it has been a tremendous strain for me the past few years.
What fuels my soul remarkably are time spent on my own, creative activities like writing or designing, communicate with people on a deeper level and being in nature.
Furthermore, the small things like a cup of tea, the blooming flowers in spring, a magnificent book, a warm blanket or my cat showing me its affection, have a vast impact on me.
What are your soul fuels? Let me know in the comments below! 😉